SEX AND MONEY

Sex and money seem to be common themes nowadays, as sex scandals abound, and the money that comes along with it is obscene! As our culture becomes more engrossed in the pairing of these two subjects, they are also the two topics causing the most problems in marriage.

Sex is tied into money and that’s all wrapped up in power. The power struggle between men and women, in our relationships and marriages is familiar territory, if only recently discussed by funmi akingbade

After prying into the sex lives of Rich men, a team of researchers have concluded that richer people -- particularly women -- report higher rates of satisfaction in the bedroom.

Overall, it appears that Rich men are happy with the quality and quantity of their time in the bedroom: a whopping 90 percent of men and women said they were either quite or very satisfied with their sex lives in general.

But after digging through 9,850 interviews taken from the country's first national sex survey in 2009, researchers from the Nigerian Public Health Agency also found a correlation between socioeconomic status and sexual satisfaction, particularly notable among female respondents.

"People of a lower socioeconomic status claim to be less satisfied sexually, which especially applies to women, who seem to be more influenced by these factors," explained lead author Funmi Akinggbade in a statement released Wednesday.

Conversely, the study, published noted that those who were more well-off seemed to have a “better awareness of their own needs and a greater capacity for developing their sexuality in a way which is satisfying for them."

Researchers also found a link between those with a higher socioeconomic status and the use of contraception.

The World Health Organisation defines sexual health as a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being when it comes to sexuality -- above and beyond the absence of disease and dysfunction.

Respondents likewise reported higher satisfaction when they had a stable partner (97 percent of men, 96 percent of women) versus a casual partner and a series of hook-ups (88 percent men, 80 percent women).

Meanwhile, another study published this spring out of the University of Colorado Boulder found that people reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction when they believed they were clocking in more nookie time than their peers.

Said lead author Tim Wadsworth: "Having more sex makes us happy, but thinking that we are having more sex than other people makes us even happier."

What does money have to do with relationships?

Money has everything to do with relationships. The way you and your partner handle your money together will have a huge impact on the “health” of your relationship.

If you’re like most people, you have grown to believe that relationships thrive when there is enough “love” between the two people involved. You probably thought money had little to do with how two people feel about each other.

It is true that in the initial physical attraction stage, money has very little to do with the chemical reactions the body goes through to signal that there is a possibility or an interest to engage further with a particular person.

“Financial conflict is stronger, longer lasting, and predicts divorce more than any other marital issue”

The truth is as a relationship progresses, money becomes a more serious issue. When two people form a “partnership”, they start sharing their lives, their household, and sooner or later, their money. Money determines how you live, where you live, the places you visit, the experiences you have, and the quality of your life. Later when you have children, money affects the schools they go to, the vacations you take (or don’t take), and even the quality of health care you and them can access.

If you want to establish a business, your sales and the amount of money you bring in will eventually determine if you are able to stay in business or not. These are just a few examples of the areas that money touches.

“Money & finances are the No. 1 thing  people

argue about and end marriages over!”

You might already know this, but money, sex, and extended family members are the three primary reasons why relationships fail. It’s in that order, too—money, sex, and extended family. Everything eventually goes back to those three things.

Many times is easier for couples to talk about sex than to talk about money. A recent survey from Match.com revealed that although 94% of people surveyed believe a person’s ability to manage finances is important in a relationship, only about half of them have the “financial talk” with a new partner within six months to a year of dating. 19% never have the chat.

Financial conflict is stronger, longer lasting and predicts divorce better than any other marital issue. It is so difficult to talk about money because the “money” issue is always a power struggle and power struggles kill relationships.

“The “money” issue is so difficult because it

always turns into a power struggle.”

In many cases, after an intimate relationship progresses, the women “gives” the responsibility of money to her partner in one way or another. She may not have even noticed it. But by “giving” this role away, she relinquished two very important aspects of her life: her basic security, her basic sense of being able to provide for herself, and second, the self-esteem attached to that ability to feel “safe” in life.

- See more at: http://decodethedynamics.com/money-the-relationship-wrecker/#sthash.YHXjf8pb.dpuf

How to know when your partner WANTS SEX… BADLY ?? Part II

Body Posture is the next important element to knowing and detecting when your partner WANTS sex. Ladies that WANT sex BADLY will physically hint to their partners that they want it, without verbally expressing it. The body becomes the next important factor in detecting when a woman wants to have and is ready FOR AMAZING SEX.

Men, what do you need to look out for? Look out for your partner’s body. If your partner has her body spread across the bed, and her back arched you know there is an inner signal there. She is subtly hinting to you that she wants sex, without verbally saying it.

Think of body posture, as her love dance to you. She will arch her back, move around a little more than usual, show off her body to you, and postulate herself. At the same time she may not even be facing you; simply because she wants you to recognize, and pick up on this subtle hint. Her neck may be back, her body arched, her body more exposed, and she may even begin to touch herself. However, the point here is this exaggerated body posture in bed with no verbalization is another key element that your partner wants you NOW, and wants you to have her NOW.

After positioning herself in an exaggerated position, your partner will then . . .

How to know when your partner WANTS SEX… BADLY part

The final element to determine if your partner wants sex BADLY is to see if she is in fact awake. If all of the above elements have been interpreted, and you see that your partner is wide awake, and still not making an approach to you, take the initiative and move toward your partner. The final element is if your partner is: wide awake.

Your partner may be twiddling her thumbs, or showing off her body, she may even be inadvertently asking you to please her; however, if you take no action, she will remain awake. She WANTS YOU to take the initiative, and in a weird way, is setting up this whole performance waiting for you to take the initial step forward.

It may seem a bit odd to men, but sometimes woman like being chased, or pursued EVEN IN BED. Hence, if you have identified the above three elements, and still see your partner is wide awake, you better make sure to take full advantage of the lady yearning for your SEX. When a woman WAITS, and is WIDE AWAKE, she expects her man to take the first sexual step.

Men, that means placing your arm around her, acknowledging her presence, complimenting her, talking to her, and ultimately pouncing her – gently but eagerly. Place your hands on her, and let her know, that you are more than ready, and you have READ between the lines. You want her to. You want AMAZING sex as well… you would be surprised at the impact of your recognition of her pleas, and her desire for SEX earns you.

Well, I will tell you, the response you give her will earn you a sex invite that will undoubtedly lead TO one AMAZING SEXUAL experience for both of you….

Always keep in mind: silence, body posture, pleas and wide awake. If these four elements are in your bedroom – do not let them go unnoticed. Take advantage of your woman’s plea for you, and realize how BADLY SHE WANT YOU, AND WANTS SEX….

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What happens when a man fails to realize that his partner is begging and in the mood for some sex?? Well, he loses the chance to have AMAZING sex.

It’s bewildering, to see how oblivious men are when it comes to sexually reading between the lines. This article is dedicated to couples out there who have partners that are sexually oblivious, and want their partner to notice that they are in fact, ready and in the mood for AMAZING sex. Don’t be the man or partner who misinterprets a woman’s plead for sex and loses the opportunity to have mind blowing sex. Be the man that reads right through the sexual lines and picks up your partners sexual signs.

There a few key elements to detecting when your partner wants sex:

1. Silence
2. Body Posture
3. Pleas
4. Wide awake 

The first element to detect for is: silence. Men, if you are both ready to sleep, or you are both doing something, for instance watching television, and your partner suddenly becomes quiet, the red flag should go up. If your partner has no reason to be mad at you, then this is the first initial sign that your partner WANTS sex.

Ladies tend to hold their emotions in, and want the man to figure out what they want. Hence, if you notice that your partner has suddenly become quiet, out of the clear blue, you need to turn your mojo ON. Ultimately, women want you to take control, and just read through the lines. Sometimes, women want it so badly, but they will not say it straight out. Men, this is your opportunity to then ask or begin your physical advancement towards your partner. Slowly begin physically expressing your sexual side by caressing her, and touching her body gently. If the silence is in place, you NOW need to respond. Once you have identified the first key to when your partner yearns for sex, the following elements act as confirmation signals to ultimately having AMAZING sex with you partner because you PICKED up on the first signal. 

The next step to clearly identifying your partner’s sexual desire for you is to . . .

TO BE CONTINUED. . . . . 

Breathless and wanting

The club is busy. 

But then it is a friday night, and it is one of the reasons why I decided to bring you here on this particular time. You are unsure. Hesitant of what lies before you.  But the fears that you have create a desire within your mind. A desire which your body clearly shows.

"We'll have a great time" I had told you, not really trying to reassure you, but just making a statement as we had walked in several hours before.  

And now I'm sat there wondering where you have wandered off to, although not overly bothered that you have left me alone.  I am comfortable in my own company.  I am comfortable in the company of people who I do not know.  I do not feel a need to talk if I don't want to.  I don't feel that I have to.  I am content with people watching.  

And that is exactly what I had been doing since you had gone for your roam around.  I enjoy this time out and I know that you cannot do anything while you are securely locked in the confines of your chastity device. And the little fluffy white towel that I have allowed you to wear over it, for now at least, covering that, keeping at bay the humiliation you would feel if someone were to discover what lay beneath.

I privately had hoped that someone would discover it, from touching you without your permission and wondered how you would react.

I smiled at that thought as I lower myself into the water.  

The bubbles from the jacuzzi relaxing me to a point where I'm quite happy if you don't rush back anytime soon.

After all, you've just brought me to an intense and wonderful orgasm with your tongue while I ignored your administrations while sucking another man's cock.  Your arousal limited by the constraints of the device, I had heard you groan more than once with the frustration but also the discomfort of your own arousal, something which only heighted my own.

The wonderful liberating feelings of doing what you want, when you want and with who you want. Even if those "who" aren't known.  No care in the world.  No worries as to what anyone else may think or feel.  And how such kinky, wild or even outrageous sex can be so self-actualising.  That it can cause you to lose all traces of self-consciousness.  That you can lose who you are in that moment, but can be who you are. Be who you want to be.  No worries. No judgement.  And that at the heart of every wild sexual thing that you may do, is that you can be yourself.  That you can lose your ego.  That you lose any self-consciousness and can be who we are. Freely and unobstructed. 

I sink lower into the water feeling the warm bubbles against my naked skin, I sigh as I lean my head back, closing my eyes for a short while. 

I am lost in my relaxation. 

Not oblivious to the others that share the jacuzzi with me.  Not totally oblivious to the girl next to me giving the man she is with a blow job in the water.  Her head bobbing up and down, coming up for air every so often, or his hands on top of her head forcing her down under the jets of water to take him into her mouth and throat more deeply, with her forcing her face to the surface gasping for air.  A look of fear on her face each time he holds her down harder and for longer.  The look of fear, the way he forces her makes my own body stir.

I am not totally oblivious to her hand that is gently moving up and down my leg while she sucks him and neither am I oblivious to his hands playing with my now erect nipples as he twists them, pulls them and flicks them.  I keep my eyes closed for extended periods of time, allowing my body to sink into the feelings that my own body brings as it reacts to the administrations of this unknown couple.  

Unashamedly, I do nothing to stop either of them.  Instead, I relax into the feelings, sighing deeply as her fingers reach into the depths of my arousal.  Her fingers are long and slender, but do not take long to find how to bring me to a gentle orgasm.  

The jacuzzi comfortably holds 15, maybe even 20, but there are 8 or 10 of us in there at the most.  The girl and myself; the only females.

My eyes wander to the rather interesting scene playing out before me.  A grey haired man, probably in his late 40's maybe early 50's but certainly well toned for his age stands up, tentatively stepping over the entangled legs and feet that are in his way as he makes his way to stand behind the other girl.  

My eyes quickly glance over his face, his body.  My eyes meeting his own as we exchange glances and smiles.  His cock is erect, hard, and I can clearly see the veins running through it.  I find myself drawn to him, something about the way that he moves without word.  Purposefully. His cock certainly looks good enough to suck, I can certainly imagine taking him deep into my mouth.

But as those thoughts go through my head and in turn through the rest of my body I decide that it is something for later, certainly when my "wandering friend" has returned.  After all, it isn't something that I would want him to miss out on. 

I watch as the older man stands behind the girl lowering himself slowly as his cock enters into her with force as she is taken completely by surprise by this intrusion into her body. She comes up quickly from the cock she is sucking. Her fingers working furiously inside of me.  She gasps, groans and moans.  I do the same and move to allow her easier access to the depths of me as she furiously moves her fingers in and out of me, rubbing against my clit that is stood to attention at the wonderful feelings that her fingers bring to me.

The guy she is with, looks up as he watches this unknown man pumping hard into his partners cunt.  She is struggling for balance until the older guy grabs her shoulders to steady her.

"Fuck her hard man" the guy next to me says, "Fuck her and use her however you want to.  Fuck her like the dirty slut that she is".

The man certainly does so, forcing his cock in and out of her, pushing her down into the water, she tries to maintain her sucking of her own guy's cock.

His words resonate in my head. 

I look at him. 

His voice brings shivers to me. I do not know if they are good or bad.  But there is something about his voice, the way he talks, the way he grants a complete stranger permission to use his partner in this way.  I recognise the voice from earlier and I continue to watch him as he turns to face me.

I am struggling to place him, struggling for recognition, yet I know that he isn't completely unknown to me.  And then he turns to me and whispers "It's my turn to play with you now, except this time I get to see your face".  

And I smile.  And I blush as I smile.

As it all falls into place.

I know that he was the same man that had stood behind me, playing with my body when I had forced my partner against the wall while I devoured his mouth with my own.  

We had been locked in a moment of breathless kissing, my teeth biting his lips, my tongue forcing its way deep into his mouth as I forced his head against the wall.  He on the other hand had touched me from behind.  His hands had forced their way between my legs, around my body, twisting and pinching my nipples so hard they hurt, playing with me all the time that I was locked in a kiss.  He had brought me to a fast and furious orgasm, I felt my own juices running down my thighs as he whispered thank you into my ear before he had walked away.  

I hadn't seen his face. 

He hadn't seen mine.

And when I had turned to see who it was, it was impossible to know from the small group of people that had stood and witnessed my orgasm stolen by a complete stranger which one he was.  I scanned the room for any clue. 

Except there wasn't one.  I didn't even know who this person was who had stolen such a wonderful orgasm from my body.  

But now, several hours later, I knew exactly who it was.

He pulled his girl towards him, the man still pumping into her. He kissed her deeply before turning away from her handing her over to this rather sexually adept guy and kissed me in exactly the same way.

I am left breathless. 

Breathless and wanting.  

Breathless and wanting him. 

Wanting him. Desiring him. Needing him.

He doesn't say anything as he looks at me. He simply grins. And I want to slap him and hurt him. But I want to kiss him, and hurt him and fuck him. And I want him to take me and use me and fuck me and to force another orgasm from me.  

Although this time, I want him to do it while I look into the depths of his eyes.  They draw me in. Our eye contact lasts as he moves towards me. 

He remains silent. 

And my body is doing things that it shouldn't be. And I am thankful that my own arousal is washed away with the warm waters of the jacuzzi and the bubbles that continue working their way around my body.

He leans against the back of the tub with one of his arms, and looks at me still grinning.  I am determined not to break his gaze.  I don't want to look down at the hard cock that I can feel against my leg.  I know it is there. I can feel it. I remember how it felt from earlier.  

In fact, I remember far too well.

His hands are on me now.  

One of them pushing the hair back from my face, the other deftly sliding over my body, between my legs, over my breasts, fingers pinching my nipples, twisting them, hurting them.  I groan deeply as he twists them harder.  One of my hands is pressing against his cock and I can tell that he likes it as I begin to tease him.  

He moves now. Sitting wide legged. He pulls me closer and without thought or hesitation I am on his lap.

And the water is bubbling furiously around us. And I don't know who guided his hardness into me, but I know it was me that kissed him furiously, biting and sucking his lips, drawing blood as I do so. And his hands grip my ass tightly as he pulls me down around him, I feel his pelvic bone hard against me as he forces me down further, pushing his cock deeper inside.  And the water and the bubbles splash around us.

And I'm breathless.

Breathless and wanting.

Breathless and wanting him. 

And his girl is watching us now. And the guy fucking his girl is watching us now.  And the other people in the jacuzzi are watching us now. 

And I am screaming into his mouth as I fuck him and I don't notice the people around us, the people stood watching us.  And I don't care that they are stood there watching us.  And I don't care that I am screaming into his mouth. And I don't care that he is fucking me and I am being brought to a most intense orgasm by a complete stranger when only mintues before, one was stolen from me by his girl.  And I don't care that I don't even know his name as he forces me down with such force onto his cock that I can feel him deep, deep within me.  And I don't care that he is pulling my hair as I devour his mouth with my own.

And I am remembering the orgasm he stole from me earlier. And his hands are around me. And I'm pushing down onto him, harder and faster and I cannot believe I am about to orgasm once again.

And I bury my face into his neck, biting and sucking hard into the pale skin and his fingers are sliding around my ass, finding their way between the cheeks. And oh god, he remembers from earlier just what happens when his fingers find their way into my ass.

And I am breathless.

Breathless and wanting.

Breathless and wanting as I fuck him. As he finger fucks my ass. One finger, then two and I am forcing myself down onto his cock to feel him, but at the same time forcing myself down onto his fingers that are now deep within me.  And my heart is racing fast, and my breathing is shallow, and my long nails dig into his skin, scratching him. Hurting him.  And I feel hands all over my body, not just his. But his girls.  And the hands of the man that was fucking his girl.

And there are hands and mouths on my neck and back. And there are hands on my breasts and on my body.  And his cock is still hard within me. And he is kissing me, kissing my neck, holding me, whispering things to me about what else he wants to do to me.  And I am riding him harder and faster.  And there are hands and mouths and bodies everywhere.

And I am lost to the waves of orgasm that course through my body.  As I look up from his neck to see the grey haired guy stood behind me.  And he whispers into my ear

"It's my turn now" as his cock forces his way into my ass.

And I remember how beautiful his cock had looked before he had taken the girl from behind. But now here I am, two cocks pumping in, tearing me apart, stretching my insides.  And the girl is sucking and playing with my nipples and I am fucking and being fucked.

And wave after waves of orgasm courses through my body and as they do so, I look up and see you have returned. 

And you are stood there looking at me, a look of surprise but deep arousal upon your face.  The towel tied around your naked body.  And I know that your cock is forcing against the constraints of the device. And I can make the outline out from behind the towel. 

And you are drinking in all that is playing out before your eyes.  Watching the guy I am sat upon, the guy who is fucking me deeply from behind, the girl who is sucking on my nipples where you had been only a short time ago. And the hands of the others playing with any vacant body part and skin that they can touch. 

And I can see your arousal.  And it arouses me even more.

And I am breathless.

Breathless and wanting.

Breathless.

As he fucks me harder. As she sucks me harder. And as I feel the cocks inside of me coming to the brink of yet another orgasm, my juices mingling with the bubbles of the jacuzzi.  My screams being lost amongst the voices of "fuck her harder", "fuck her deeper", "fuck her ass" and they are fucking me harder and deeper.  And as they steal another orgasm from the depths of my body, their own being given to me.

And we collapse into the water.  And we are breathless. Breathless and spent.  Our bodies all intermingled in the depths of the water.  The bubbles playing havoc with a highly aroused body. Hands gently stroking and touching as we recover from the activity of only moments before.

I turn and look at you stood there, your eyes taking in the scene that has just played out before you.  I smile at you. My eyes beckon you over to join us.  Except I know that you are hesitant in revealing the device which you wear.

I raise my eyebrows and you know that I am losing patience in waiting for you. But I can see the battle going on in your head. The humiliation of people seeing, but your desire to be there with me.

And with that, you remove the towel placing it onto a peg on the wall.  Your eyes lowered as you step gingerly into the water.  Your cheeks flushing with the embarrassment at showing yourself in this way.

"See it wasn't that bad was it?" I ask you as you lower yourself into the water.  I move slightly to the side to allow you to sit next to me. "But see what you miss out on when you wander off" as I grin at him.  Hands still stroking my body, my own touching bodies but not knowing who it is touching.

I can sense your nervousness. Your arousal. Your longing.  And you are breathless and wanting.

"I really need to remove this device" you whisper into my ear.  "May I?"

Talking to your partner about sex

Sex has always been an essential part of life. Yet, after all this time, men and women still seem to speak different languages when it comes to sex. Men often focus on the physical act of sex - a nuts-and-bolts approach, so to speak. Women, however, tend to talk about sex from an emotional point of view - the caring, sharing and intimacy wrapped up in it.

But in spite of our differences, these days communication is more important than ever. With the advent of HIV/AIDS and the increased spread of dangerous sexually transmitted infections, talking about sex before you have sex could literally save your life. While the cold mechanics of safer sex may seem a bit unromantic, some of the alternatives - embarrassing trips to the clinic, unsightly diseases or even death - aren’t exactly sexy either. In the end, whether you practice safer sex is your decision. But whatever your choice, it’s a good idea to understand the benefits and risks associated with your decision.

Taking Precautions

Worrying about pregnancy or disease is one of the biggest desire killers, so let your partner know that taking precautions will only help you get into it more…which will almost certainly make it better for them too. This conversation may be a little awkward, but most people will understand that you’re only looking out for your health and theirs. Also, if you’re sure you want to have sex with someone, you may want to use this conversation to initiate sex. Just be firm and prepared, and make sure that you leave yourself an opening to delay or call of sex if your partner is unwilling to meet your requests. If you do decide to practice safer sex, you may want to bring up the subject with your partner before actually having sex. Usually, the best time to have this talk is before you both get worked up.

If you’re a woman, you may want to say something like: “You know that at some point we may become intimate.” “This is what I expect from someone who loves and cares about me.” “I want you to be honest about your sexual history - I will be honest about mine.” “I want you to wear a condom when we make love.”

Communication

There are still many people who say, “I couldn’t possibly talk that way with him (or her)!” And in some cases, this may be true. If that’s the case, maybe it’s a good idea to take a look at your relationship and how close you really are. Sex definitely isn’t everything in a relationship, but “bad” sex (if there is such a thing) can sometimes be a symptom of other problems. Think about it - in the end, it’s your pleasure that’s on the line.

A good sexual relationship takes work and communication. If you pretend that everything feels good, your partner will take the wrong cues, and things will never get better! And if you pretend for too long, your partner is going to feel pretty lousy when you finally do bring things up. He/she may feel upset that sex has not been making you feel good, and hurt that you didn’t feel comfortable bringing things up.

Bad communication is one of the biggest problems for every couple. You have to tell your partner what you like and don’t like, and ask them what they like. Whatever you do, don’t fake liking something (a certain sexual position, for example) just because you’re afraid of hurting your partner’s ego - if you fake it, they’ll just keep on doing it, and you’ll just keep on not liking it. Or maybe you’re even doing something that neither of you likes, because you both think the other one likes it. Tell your partner what you like (or show them), be honest, and, with practice and time, you’ll both come to know each other’s bodies like your own. No doubt this conversation might be a little embarrassing at first, but if you and your partner don’t discuss what you do and don’t like, you’re never going to reach your full sexual potential. If you want, you can even have some fun with it, and turn this learning process into a bit of a game.

Sex can be great, but it’s not perfect

But the main message is this: Sex can be great, but it’s not perfect, and it’s something you definitely have to work at. Over the course of your life you’re going to have good sex and not-so-good sex, every time is not going to be the best time, and it’s unfair to expect anyone (including yourself) to be the perfect lover every time. If you expect this much of sex or of your partner, you’re just setting yourself up to be let down. It’s just not realistic and it’s just not how life works.

When talking to your partner:

• make sure to express your needs from a personal perspective - this will help put your partner at ease
• be clear, honest and open about your desires, your likes and dislikes
• pay attention to your partner’s responses, and take his/her feelings into consideration
• If you agree to have safe sex, don’t get so caught up in passion that you forget about it later.

Try openers like, “that feels nice…let’s try this too,” or “that hurts a bit…try this”. You can always show your partner what you like by guiding them with your hands. Whatever you do, don’t ever tell them they’re doing things “wrong” or get to the point where you’re just shouting out orders and instructions. Just let them know what you like and don’t like and suggest things you want to try. It will probably do a lot for them too - it’s always a big turn-on to know your partners really enjoying it! And don’t forget to find out what they like and don’t like too. 

How To Talk Dirty: 50 Examples That Will Make You Blush!

Just lie back and let me make you cum”
“You taste so good”
“You can have me any way you want, babe”
“Look how ready I am. Don’t you want to put your dick in there?”

What do you feel as you read this? Did that just turn you on a little bit? Yes? Then this article is for you! No? Then this article is for you!

Aww, those dirty words… They are powerful and seductive in the bedroom and many of us use them for expression and effect. Yesterday my friend asked me if I know how to talk dirty. So today I’m going to share with you some dirty talk tips and examples that will help you figure out how to approach the naughty fun of talking in the sack and feel more comfortable about it.

As for me, talking dirty is an essential part of my sex life and one of the naughtiest things I enjoy. Dirty talk is the opportunity to really push back all the boundaries and stops. Being sweet and polite by nature, and expressing my dirty side in bed and blurting out sexy rude things is a lot of fun and gives a spice to my sex life.

Talking dirty to your sweetheart is a great form of sex play, but there are certain things you must keep in mind in order to have the best experience.

What is a Dirty Talk?

Dirty talk (sexy talk, naughty talk, etc) is a sex play involving sensual/sexual phrasing in order to drive one’s partner or oneself wild through words and imagination, and heighten sexual pleasure before and during sex. Through a dirty talk you can stimulate your partner’s major senses: sound, sight and touch. Lovers use dirty talk as a way of expressing their wants and needs in the heat of the moment.

If done right and at the right time, dirty talk is one of the hottest things you can do for your lover!

How to talk dirty?

Types of Dirty Talk: the soft-core and the hard-core.

The soft-core dirty talk may include sweet nothings, and “not so dirty” phrases and words. The soft-core version is a great way to start with dirty talk. In the beginning it is best to stick with the words you already know these work well and gradually add new naughty words and phrases here and there during sex. After all, who says a dirty talk has to be always vulgar? First of all, it has to be comfortable for both lovers and sound seductively enough to make you aroused and ready for more! We all know that sometimes the simple statements work incredibly well.

“I love the things you do with your tongue”
“Honey, you’re the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen!”
“I want you so bad”
“Your wish is my command”

The hard-core dirty talk may involve swear words and slang words. Many lovers find it extremely hot if you use them, especially if you don’t usually swear. If you prefer to use some of the most vulgar words and phrases known to man, then so be it as long you are comfortable with it and keep it within both of you. Talking dirty is like a secret with your sweetheart, a secret that only you two know and enjoy behind closed doors.

“I want to rub my pussy all over your face”
“Spray your juice all over my tits”
“Put your big fat baby maker inside my pussy and fuck my brain out. Right now!”
“This is how a real man fucks!”

Dirty talking ways

A great way to sound sexy and dirty is describing out loud what is happening during sex, how wonderful it feels in your body; talking out your dirty fantasies; telling your partner something you’re going to do and something you want your lover to do to you right now. If you can hold eye contact as you’re describing it, you get some extra pleasure, believe me. And one more thing: complimenting your lover is one more way to sound dirty in the sack. Compliment and praise your lover, give her/him an ego boost. Talk about his/her body and tell him/her about your favorite part of his/her body. Be descriptive and creative!

“You look so sexy when you do that”
“You taste sooo good”
“Oh, that feels so good! Do that again!”
“No one has ever made me come as hard as you can”

It’s not what you say, but how you say it

Dirty talk doesn’t involve only words and phrases. You may use your voice and sounds: moans, groans, sighs; whispering and screaming. You can sound commanding and harsh, submissive and uncertain, and everywhere in between.

It should come naturally from you

Please, do not say words that make you feel uncomfortable. Try to be yourself and say the words that come out naturally. Just say what comes to mind. So, in order to sound spontaneous and really sexy, you have to wait for the right moment because if a dirty talk isn’t done right and at the right time; then prepare to deal with laughter and giggles  After all, the point of dirty talk is to have fun, so don’t worry if it sounds funny!

Sometimes the laughter can give way to the most natural dirty talk and dirtiest phrases! So, if your sweetheart’s dirty talk makes you laugh, say something like “Shut up, sweetie, and use your mouth on me. I adore that!” or “Don’t talk dirty to me, play dirty to me!”  Perfect: now you’re talking dirty!

Dirty talk boundaries

When the subject of dirty talk comes up, the first thing to do is communicate your dirty talk boundaries. If there are words that you don’t like, you have to tell your sweetheart. Once you have agreed on what works and what doesn’t – have fun!

Dirty talk is not disrespect; this is a sex play.

Behind closed doors, almost all women enjoy being treated like a little whore every now and then. But everyone should separate a sex play from reality. So if she is a “bitch” in the sack, that doesn’t mean that she would like to be called a “bitch” outside of the bedroom.

SO WHAT TO SAY?

Okay, so you are in the mood to talk sexy/dirty/naughty to your lover and aren’t sure what to say? I hope the coming examples will come in quite handy.

50 Dirty Talk Examples, From Not-So-Dirty to So-So-Dirty!

1. Tell me all the dirty little things you do when you masturbate, you naughty boy/girl. Tell me everything, baby. Tell me how you play with yourself.
2. Do you like it when I touch myself here?
3. Lie back and shut up! I’m going to make you come until you can’t breathe.
4. Kiss me there… Lick every inch of me.
5. Come over here and ride me hard!
6. Fuck me. Right now!
7. Use me as your toy all night long.
8. Touch yourself and let me watch you.
9. Do you want more? Take it!
10. Give me that come, honey. I want it in my mouth. Come on, give it to me.
11. It drives me crazy when you look at me that way.
12. I’m going to do you right now, honey. Your pussy… or your ass…?
13. Well, you stupid fucker, I won’t let you fuck my ass… So what?
14. Shut the fuck up! I’ll fuck you wherever I want, naughty little whore!
15. I always get what I want.
16. Okay, babe, you can have any hole you want.
17. I love the way it sounds when you fuck me. Hear it?
18. I want you to suck out all the juices you put in me with your mouth.
19. Baby don’t stop! Oh my god, I love it when you do that!
20. I’m so fuckin’ wet, just let me suck your sweet lollipop…
21. Put your baby maker inside my hole and fuck my brain out!
22. Just grab my head and force me closer!
23. I’m your slave for the night. Tell me what you want.
24. You can have me any way you want…
25. Get over here, big boy. And show me who’s the boss!
26. Where do you want to come?
27. I want it all over me. Cover me with it.
28. What a sweet sexy ass!
29. Do you like my juicy pussy/big dick? Tell me what you see. Describe it to me.
30. You’re my bitch. I adore how naughty you are. I love you.
31. Babe, you have to follow all my rules tonight.
32. No stops this time. Let’s see how many times I can make you come.
33. Don’t you dare come until I say you can!
34. Maybe you should spank me – I’ve been very, very bad.
35. I want you to undress and wait for me in the bedroom.
36. Get on your hands and knees, sweetheart… and wait like a good girl.
37. Spread your legs wide for me, sweet darling. Your body is mine tonight.
38. You like it when I spread my legs and take you in?
39. I can’t believe what you’re doing! Please do not stop!
40. I love pleasing you and the sounds of your pleasure drive me crazy.
41. You little slut, I’m going to fuck you till you can’t walk! Ready?
42. Fill me up, daddy, fuck my tight cunt! Make me scream with that big dick of yours!
43. Faster! Deeper! Harder!
44. What a hot nasty girl you are! I will wash your mouth out with my cum if you talk dirty, naughty girl.
45. I love how big your cock gets when I talk to you like this.
46. I love sucking your cock. And I’m going to lick it clean.
47. Cum for me baby, cum in my mouth, I want to taste you.
48. I could spend hours between your legs; teasing… sucking; sipping; tasting you.
49. I want you. I want to make love with you. I want to enjoy sex with you. I want to fuck you.
50. Oh, baby, that was the best fuck I’ve ever had. Thank you for that.

Don’t be quiet in the bedroom! Be a good girl/boy who knows how to be bad and talk dirty.

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