Money has everything to do with relationships. The way you and your partner handle your money together will have a huge impact on the “health” of your relationship.
If you’re like most people, you have grown to believe that relationships thrive when there is enough “love” between the two people involved. You probably thought money had little to do with how two people feel about each other.
It is true that in the initial physical attraction stage, money has very little to do with the chemical reactions the body goes through to signal that there is a possibility or an interest to engage further with a particular person.
“Financial conflict is stronger, longer lasting, and predicts divorce more than any other marital issue”
The truth is as a relationship progresses, money becomes a more serious issue. When two people form a “partnership”, they start sharing their lives, their household, and sooner or later, their money. Money determines how you live, where you live, the places you visit, the experiences you have, and the quality of your life. Later when you have children, money affects the schools they go to, the vacations you take (or don’t take), and even the quality of health care you and them can access.
If you want to establish a business, your sales and the amount of money you bring in will eventually determine if you are able to stay in business or not. These are just a few examples of the areas that money touches.
“Money & finances are the No. 1 thing people
argue about and end marriages over!”
You might already know this, but money, sex, and extended family members are the three primary reasons why relationships fail. It’s in that order, too—money, sex, and extended family. Everything eventually goes back to those three things.
Many times is easier for couples to talk about sex than to talk about money. A recent survey from Match.com revealed that although 94% of people surveyed believe a person’s ability to manage finances is important in a relationship, only about half of them have the “financial talk” with a new partner within six months to a year of dating. 19% never have the chat.
Financial conflict is stronger, longer lasting and predicts divorce better than any other marital issue. It is so difficult to talk about money because the “money” issue is always a power struggle and power struggles kill relationships.
“The “money” issue is so difficult because it
always turns into a power struggle.”
In many cases, after an intimate relationship progresses, the women “gives” the responsibility of money to her partner in one way or another. She may not have even noticed it. But by “giving” this role away, she relinquished two very important aspects of her life: her basic security, her basic sense of being able to provide for herself, and second, the self-esteem attached to that ability to feel “safe” in life.
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